Okay, people, it’s time for a little reality check. Sex is not like pizza. It is not always good.
Normally, I talk about skill levels and about how everything is okay no matter who you are, but there’s also another angle to consider here.
Having sex and ensuring it’s good sex isn’t always about skill levels; sometimes it goes a lot deeper. Actually, it often goes a lot deeper, and there’s an astounding number of people who don’t even realize that, especially in college.
Everyone comes to college with preconceived notions from movies and friends and family that aren’t all correct. Basically what I’m getting at is that experimenting and having a lot of sex in college isn’t always the best for everyone. While that may be the right path for some people, I, and many others, also see people who get caught up in the whole sex, drugs and rock and roll mindset, only without the wildly successful band.
Some people live for the weekend. Going out and having sex are what matter the most to them, but, honestly, where will that get you?
I’m not trying to say it’s wrong to go out and have sex or party when you want to, but some people do it to the extent that it seems like it might destroy their present as well as their future.
If I could give everyone a reality check that would get through to them, I would, without a doubt, but that’s not the easiest thing to do, especially in regard to sex when we’re hormonal college students.
If you want to self-examine (which I recommend), I find the trick lies in figuring out what your reason for sex is. For some people, sex is just sex, so wanting to have one-night stands is healthy, so long as you’re keeping it as safe as humanly possible. For others, sex means something more, and random sex will only be harmful.
In this case, think about whether or not sex could be a mistake you find yourself regretting later. If you’re doing it in an attempt to feel better about yourself, sex might not be the best idea. Having sex in order to improve your self-image might leave you feeling even emptier than you felt prior to having sex.
Another factor to consider is what sex can do in the long term. Not only can it ruin relationships between friends or otherwise, it can also adversely affect your health for life, something that I don’t think people think about enough.
Despite all these seemingly negative aspects of sex, I don’t think that it’s a bad thing. Sex for the right reasons is great. Even mindless sex is great! Really, I just want to make at least some students think more carefully about sex.
Sex is a huge part of college life whether you personally experience it or not, and it deserves to have a pretty large value placed upon it. Before you find yourself doing the horizontal tango, think about whether or not it’s something you really, truly want to do.
Coming full circle, sex should always be better than pizza, and it’s up to you to make sure that it is. Oh, and try to keep the 30 minutes or less policy out of the bedroom.