Perhaps your Friday night isn’t going exactly as planned. You wiped out in some frat bathroom and puked in the shower. You feel awful, you probably look awful and — wait — who’s there at the door? Ninety percent chance it’s that special someone you want to spend at least the next three hours with.
When they come into the bathroom or they find out, as they probably will, because drunk you isn’t that smooth, what are you going to do?
It’s a given that you’re going to be awkward and full of shame, probably in the moment and certainly the morning after, when your friends all tell you how bad you screwed it up. But there are a few things you can do to make it a little less horrible.
Step 1: Do you even care?
To be honest, a lot of people wouldn’t care what they had done if the someone they were with was a stranger. Literally, just open the bathroom door to their shocked face, wipe the little bits of vomit off your mouth and leave.
Well I guess you don’t have to make that much of a statement, but you get my point; If you don’t care about them, then you don’t even need to bother.
Step 2: Figure out what they’re thinking.
If the other person says it’s not a big deal, it’s not a big deal. Don’t push the issue, just move on. If they’re hurt or you feel like you humiliated yourself, then you have to keep going from that point.
Also, assuming alcohol is involved, since it usually is, they might have had a few too many themselves. They might not know what happened and even if they find out eventually, it won’t be as embarrassing since they don’t remember it either.
Step 3: Laugh.
If you humiliated yourself, you might be able to joke it off, depending on how serious it is if you really don’t want to talk about it.
Plus, if other people think it’s funny, why shouldn’t you? If you can change your mindset on the issue, do it!
Step 4: Own up.
This is where it gets serious. You don’t really have a choice: if you made a huge mistake, if you care you hurt them and you can’t laugh it off, you have to talk to them.
It’s usually not as bad as people assume it’ll be. An apology goes a long way! If you’re genuinely sorry, just tell the other person that you’ll definitely make it up to them and you’ll do your best to not let it happen again.
These kinds of events are inevitable in the lives of most college kids, but we’re human, we make mistakes and it’s really all about how you handle it.
Don’t obsess over it; handle it maturely. Sex and whatnot is all about communication and respect. They go hand in hand, so when you communicate the right way, you’ll find others will respect you and that respect goes a long way in making an awkward situation right.